Happy Anniversary 4.0

When I think about 4 years I think about a graduating class, a presidential term/election and the entire BS involved, about the time it takes to finish a bachelor’s degree, the Olympics, leap years, an eclipse and the World Cup.

This particular 4th year is extremely special and I can’t believe it’s arrived. It’s my 4th wedding anniversary already. The phrase “Where does the time go?” was a weightless cliché that had very little meaning to me. I use to think that’s what old people use to say. Now I’m catching myself saying it all the time. I’m sure I’ll be punching out my daughter’s boyfriend in no time.

But back to the matter at hand, while it’s my 4th anniversary I have no clue what to buy my wife. My father-in-law told me, “You’re not suppose to admit that, especially in front of your wife.” Translation: Pretend you have a plan even though you don’t. If there’s anything I’ve learned about my wife in our four years of marriage is that she knows I have no plan. Yet, I’m not worried, things seem to always get done.

This year there’s a new element to our marriage, namely, having a beautiful child. I’ve grown to appreciate my wife even more after watching her take such good care of our little girl. It makes me want to take better care of her. It takes intentionality to make sure my wife feels loved and not taken for granted. It’s something I have to remind myself from time to time because it’s natural human tendency to coast or to relax because we feel like we deserve it.

Yes it’s been more work but it’s healthy work, much like a workout at the gym. I love my wife and I feel truly blessed by her. You’ll have to wait if you want to know what I’ll be getting her for a gift but a Happy Marriage to all of you while you wait.